DDLG Lifestyle

Moving into a deeper phase of our relationship I’ve considered a new concept to me; and I’d like to share this with you.  It is quite possible that it is implemented by others who live Poly, so your insight is also very welcome.

I’ve read some (Not a lot) Poly threads and there are many things I disagree with. But also, little has been said about Polyfidelty and how it may be a more unique alternative for some. I don’t normally comment on Poly threats because I may not be prepared with sharing my definition of Poly in accordance with what has worked for use effectively, while at the same time I don’t want to tell others how to live their lives.

In our household we understand each of our roles. Who I am as a Daddy to My little @SeductiveMo and who I am as a Pet Owner to my @Nekomittens. In a vanilla traditional world this all sounds silly, and in other cases it sounds like too much! But I’d like to explain.

Our defined roles help us know what perks we have. What perks @SeductiveMo can enjoy as my Little and same goes for my Pet. I make every effort for them to be organic and original.

Pets love to get head pats.

Littles do to…

Littles love snacks,

Pets do too.

Pets have enjoy having their own pet space.

Littles enjoy being in little space.

What matters most here is adjusting the individual approach and making unique experiences while also adjusting the volume in which I provide that care for each of them. Creating a personalization. I won’t repeat my gestures of appreciation in the same way for both. I love finding creative ways to surprise them. My connection to @SeductiveMo is continually growing at a high rate and therefore trust has reached a very deep level. As a result of that we create new moments all the time, moments that we freeze in time and enjoy to a deep level of indulgence. My connection with @Nekomittens continues growing consistently. We’ve established trust and it keeps growing.  

We talk about feelings openly and I recognize where I too need to grow. I concede and apologize if it is important for that moment and genuine.

This doesn’t even address the connection they have worked with each other. The trust they have for each other. The depth in which they connect when I’m not around and their level of intimacy.

It’s gotten difficult but it’s never toxic. Toxicity almost always ends bad. It goes downhill quick and dangerously. We’ve experienced that a few times already (with others) who wanted to be a part of us. But we’ve held our grown and deflected.

After reading the definition for Polyfidelity, it feels closer to how we define our relationship. We are intimate and very close to each other, with each other. There is no hierarchy system in our relationship because growth comes to all of us individually and collectively.

@Nekomitten enjoys her role of being a good kitten and being of service during kink time. She worships the ground @SeductiveMo steps in and does it so gracefully. I understand the moments they need, and I preoccupy myself with running errands, grocery shopping, cleaning, cooking, or hanging out with friends. When it’s my time, I make sure they both have expressed their needs and I’ve provided for them entirely. I make sure both are tucked in, and that they are drained. If agreed upon during a casual conversation while watching The Last of Us or White Lotus, that there is mutual hunger for each other; The ladies then are given direct orders to get ready.

We work around each other’s schedule to cater to each other in ways that make it possible for all of us to sustain our intimate echo system of equality but doing so in ways where we all give more than we receive so it continues to grow. When we disagree, we all understand each other’s moods, but we also communicate them effectively. If we need space, or instead closeness we communicate that too.

We talk about abandonment issues, trauma, abuse, toxic relationships of our past, and so on. We don’t yell at each other and when we’ve raised our voices, we self-check as well as communicate it.

My desire, considering we live the lifestyle 24/7, is to learn how to live by the rules of engagement 24/7. In other words, I should need announce that I am giving them a “Direct Order” for it to always be a direct order. With that same passion, they have every moment of their lives to express their dissatisfaction, likely using their safe words. They are encouraged to do so if necessary.

If I have given a direct order without emphasis on wording it that way, their response should still be Yes Sir, Yes Daddy. Unless we are out in public, then discretion is important. It also may not be the right moment for either of them for any given reason. They can then use the word yellow and express their concerns. Or better yet? Maybe the idea of having a universal safe word that implies, can we check in please.  It could be several things that have easy resolutions.

“My tummy hurts, I need to freshen up, so on and so forth.” None of these are ever treated as excuses as we all want each other, timing sometimes doesn’t work in our favor. But there are still ways in which I can provide as a Dom. There are still ways in which they can cater.

I love giving massages in exchange for hugs and verbal gratitude. I love cooking in exchange for smiles and cuddles or go the extra mile so they can wear something cute discreet and sexy just for me (and get pics throughout the day). I earn my service. I provide service, I receive.

We have explored concepts that introduced other Subs to no avail. We’ve learned to read the red-flags and continue learning more about each other through others too. Our short collective dating experiences have given us insight as to what we DONT want as much as what we DO.  As for now, we are open to enjoy playtime with others but that’s the current extent of it.

We already have the ideal, we won’t mind exploring other ideals too. Change is beautiful if it allows more room for growth.