First off, although I am invested in continuous growth within the lifestyle. I am not heavily involved in the community. I suppose a very big part of it has to do more with my desire to find my niche. I am most inclined to aspects of the lifestyle that involve the mind play.
The idea to further pursue those aspects of the lifestyle stems from an inherent desire to help a Sub grow in areas like facing her fears, traumas, to learning how to forgive others, and most importantly forgive herself. In the years of engaging with Subs, I’ve come to understand that exploring the mind can become dangerous ground for all parties involved.
Mental Health
If I lack understanding in areas of mental disorders, how could I possibly help anyone heal from their past traumas. Help them control and distinguish truth from role-play. I’m definitely not a doctor, I’m not trying to play one either. Yes, continual conversations are important. Understanding limitations is crucial. Hard and soft limits, love languages, how do we speak to each other? Who determines when they’re ready for more? How does anyone determine progress? And the ultimate conclusion I came up with is…. I simply can’t! It wouldn’t be fair to subject someone to any level of engagements in scenes where I am uncertain how their mental health could potentially affect them and/or me.
Therefore, I suppose the best starting ground would be conducting an interview? Asking the right questions? If someone is medically diagnosed with a mental disorder, I will respectfully decline. Further, If it then becomes a situation where someone is self-diagnosing? All the more reason for me to decline. I can’t putting anyone at risk. it would be selfish of me to do so.
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